| “There is more hunger for love and
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| | he’s untidy?
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| appreciation in this world than for
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| | There are actually three types of
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| bread”
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| | appreciation because there are three ways
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| Mother Theresa
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| | the brain processes information -
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| In a management survey I read recently
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| | visually, auditory or kinaesthetically.
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| 88% of people who left their company said
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| | Visual children like to feel appreciated
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| they didn’t receive enough
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| | by things they can see like, cards,
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| acknowledgement for the work they did and
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| | certificates, plaques or cups - things
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| felt unappreciated. I found that
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| | they can keep and put up on the wall to
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| percentage to be staggeringly high but
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| | remember and cherish.
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| not really a surprise.
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| | Auditory children like to hear
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| I remember when I was a teacher working
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| | appreciation so verbal praise and the
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| with a colleague getting her classroom
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| | warm tone in your voice and the words you
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| ready for Parent’s Open Day, as the
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| | use mean a lot to them.
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| Headmaster walked in. He chatted for a
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| | While kinaesthetic children love to be
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| while and really praised the displays on
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| | hugged, have their hand held or their
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| the wall but pointed out that there was
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| | hair tussled to feel appreciated.
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| some blu-tac missing from one of the
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| | If you are in doubt, use all three types!
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| paintings and he thought it looked untidy
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| | But for this week just start to notice
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| as the left hand corner was curling up
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| | and pay attention to the way you show
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| slightly. My colleague was really upset
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| | appreciation towards your kids - perhaps
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| when he left as she had worked tirelessly
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| | you give them praise in the way you like
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| on her classroom for hours yet she only
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| | to receive it but they may like to
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| remembered the comments after the word
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| | receive it in a different way and by
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| “but.”
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| | changing your approach you may find your
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| This made me ponder on the power of
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| | child beaming at you in surprise and
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| appreciation in our family lives and the
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| | delight.
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| way we praise and encourage our children.
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| | So one simple thing to do this week is
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| If you spend most of your time being
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| | simply to ask your children to remember a
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| positive yet finish your sentences with
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| | time when they felt most loved and listen
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| “but” you negate all the
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| | to their answers carefully to see how
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| positive things you’ve already said
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| | they respond. Then you can work out
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| to your kids and they will only remember
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| | whether they prefer the visual, auditory
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| the words after your “but. “
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| | or the kinaesthetic way.
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| For example, “I think you’re
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| | If I asked you to name the five
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| brilliant at writing your own songs and
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| | wealthiest people in the world or five
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| playing the guitar but I hate it when you
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| | people who have won the Nobel Peace Prize
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| leave the guitar propped up against the
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| | or an Oscar I bet you couldn’t do
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| armchair like that and with all the wires
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| | it. If I asked you to remember five
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| sticking out from your mike. It’s
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| | people who made a difference in your life
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| just so thoughtless and anyone of us
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| | like family, friends, teachers or
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| could knock it over or trip over
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| | colleagues who showed you appreciation I
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| them.”
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| | bet you could do that really easily.
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| What do you think your child is going to
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| | Why not make genuine appreciation part of
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| remember most?
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| | your parenting toolkit and watch your
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| The fact that you think he’s a
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| | relationships flourish.
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| great musician or the fact that you think
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