| Orgasmic sex between consenting adults provides | | | | be, talk to your partner about what you'd like and |
| more benefits to humans than simple shared | | | | work together to break through inhibitions. If your |
| intimacy. It's also important in maintaining one's | | | | partner is too demanding or not open to such |
| physical and mental health.Numerous studies have | | | | discussion, I suggest you think about finding |
| shown the beneficial effects of regular orgasms. | | | | another partner.Teach our children. Studies show |
| Sex has been shown to be a great cardiovascular | | | | that children who grow up in households where |
| workout and it has been proven to relieve stress, | | | | the parents are more open about their bodies, as |
| thereby preventing stress related disorders. | | | | opposed to always hiding naked bodies behind |
| Regular, satisfying sex may even help you live | | | | closed doors, are actually better adjusted as |
| longer!On the other hand, sexual frustration, in my | | | | adults. Children who get unconscious signals that |
| opinion, is one of the greatest problems humans | | | | the naked body is shameful or disgusting end up |
| face today.Now, I'm not talking about a guy who's | | | | with many more personal hang ups and inhibitions |
| frustrated because his wife has been out of town | | | | resulting in lower self esteem which only makes it |
| for a week. I'm talking about 40 year old guys | | | | harder to enjoy a healthy sex life.And don't be |
| who have never had sex. I'm talking about | | | | afraid to talk to children about sex. It certainly |
| women who have been so scarred sexually, that | | | | encompasses far more than "where do babies |
| they are hoping to get through the rest of their | | | | come from." Considering the impact sex, or lack |
| lives without ever having to have sex again. | | | | of sex, has on one's life, it seems pretty silly to |
| Where does this come from?Well, let's start by | | | | make everyone figure it all out for themselves by |
| taking a look at history and religion. In many | | | | trial and error. Don't shrink away from |
| cultures, sex has been labelled "dirty." And it's | | | | opportunities to talk to your children about what |
| evident in the way we interact with each other | | | | you've learned when it comes to choosing a |
| every day that this perception has endured. One | | | | partner and maintaining a relationship. Even if you |
| of the most obvious instances is the work "fuck." | | | | don't feel very successful, they can benefit from |
| Apparently left over from even more repressive | | | | your openness and experience.Guys, apply |
| times, the letters are intials describing a stockade | | | | yourselves and learn how to get laid. Don't say |
| offense, "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge." Today, | | | | stupid stuff that only serves to increase |
| it has become one of the most negative and | | | | resistance to sex. You want sex. Don't cut off |
| widely used words in American English.Look at | | | | your nose to spite your face by sending |
| high school boys who already have distorted | | | | messages that what you really want is disgusting |
| views of sex before they've even participated in | | | | or loathesome. And, don't let yourself get to a |
| the act. We hear things like, "eat me", "bite me", | | | | point where you are so desperate for sex it's all |
| "suck this," "nice girls don't but naughty girls do," | | | | you can think about. It shows. We've all seen an |
| and even as they get older, "she's fun, but she's | | | | unneutered dog that tries to hump the leg of |
| not the kind of girl you want to marry!" How | | | | everyone that comes along; it's not attractive and |
| many good hearted and adventurous teenage girls | | | | it won't help you reach your goal. Don't be afraid |
| have submitted to the wishes of their beau, only | | | | to take matters into your own hands periodically |
| to be shamed, publicly ridiculed or | | | | to release excess tension so you can present the |
| abandoned?Then boys become men. They get | | | | real you to prospective partners.And remember, |
| married to "nice girls" and spend the rest of their | | | | sex is a two way street. Men wouldn't want sex |
| lives wishing their wives were more adventurous | | | | all the time if they rarely ever had a real orgasm |
| in bed. How many husbands hassle and harrangue | | | | and it's the same for women. I know women |
| their wives to give them what they need (often | | | | who have never had an honest to goodness, |
| without thinking of their wife's needs) until she is | | | | shuddering, mind blowing, toe curling orgasm! Why, |
| fed up and no longer interested at all? Our whole | | | | because their partners were far more concerned |
| concept of sex has become so twisted that | | | | about their own pleasure instead of focusing on |
| many actually scorn its healthful and bonding | | | | nuturing a long lasting sexual relationship. If all you |
| effects because it has become so tangled up with | | | | care about is yourself, then go and pay someone |
| pain.And don't forget the contribution of acute | | | | to take care of your needs. Legal and regulated |
| sexual frustration to crime. Every sexual offense | | | | prostitution could go a long way to alleviating the |
| has its roots in sexual pain and frustration or | | | | overwhelming amount of sexual tension and |
| misconceptions about sex. If sex offenders were | | | | resulting crime in our society.Imagine a world |
| capable of having loving, responsible, adult | | | | where there is no sexual tension. Hold on, I'm not |
| relationships, there would be no need for them to | | | | talking about a world where people run around |
| commit such crimes as rape and molestation.What | | | | naked having sex everywhere with anyone who |
| can we do?First, let's get it straight that sex is | | | | happens to come along. I'm talking about a world |
| not "dirty." It is a perfectly normal biological | | | | where people are happy and comfortable with |
| function and ignoring the urge won't make it go | | | | their bodies and sex. Where people are not so |
| away. This is simply the way we are designed. If | | | | desperate for physical affection that they are |
| we truly have respect for some kind of all | | | | actually more attractive. A world where people |
| powerful Creator, then it's time we honor the | | | | feel safe and willing to open themselves up to all |
| fact that He/She/It made us the way we are. | | | | the beneficial effects of sex. It's a tall order, I |
| The Human body is a beautiful thing and it's | | | | know. We've never had such a society, but it's |
| wrong for us to attach such negative | | | | worth it to try.Gwenneth Morgan is a 40ish, Pagan |
| connotations to any aspect of our natural selves | | | | wife, mother and businesswoman who is totally |
| in favor of some Human conception of how we | | | | fed up with the Old Way. With the belief that |
| "should" be.We must learn to embrace our | | | | humans have evolved to a point where we can, |
| sexuality. Just because you might have had a bad | | | | as a group, embrace the Light, she has found the |
| experience in the past does not mean you're | | | | courage to openly share her views and encourage |
| incapable of having a good sexual experience. If | | | | others to do the same. Visit her web site to learn |
| your current sex life is not all that you'd like it to | | | | more. |