Fact Or Feeling?

I was involved in something at the weekend that'splodges', and even the odd 'kerblam' as I
left me feeling guilty. Was I actually guilty though,eventually made it home.
and how can this lesson affect us all?I could do nothing over the weekend except let
I was playing in my first curling tournament. It's athe illness take its' course, feeling ever more guilty
micro niche sport in this country, in fact there areabout wrecking the tournament for my team
only 3 purpose built sheets in the whole ofmates. There was an entry fee to play so I felt
England, and I was delighted last year to find thatquite bad.
they are only a 40 minute drive from me.Here's the point of this article though - was I right
I knew I was playing against better players thanto feel guilty? Was it really my fault?
me, with years of experience, but I was lookingYes, the team's weekend had been mucked up
forward to learning from the experience andbecause of me, but was it a situation I could
having fun. I did have fun too, for the first 90control?
minutes. Then, completely from nowhere I feltMost migraine sufferers have triggers, and mine
the first symptoms of a migraine, as my eyesinclude sharp lights and too much cheese. If I had
were unable to focus, and there were large areassat staring at the sun while munching on half a
of my vision which were 'missing.'pound of cheese and then got a migraine, it could
For anyone that doesn't suffer migraines, thinkbe argued that it was my fault, but since I hadn't
yourself lucky, because you wouldn't wish it ondone anything of the sort, I was wrong to feel
your worst enemy, it really is most unpleasant. Iguilty.
always have my pills with me, but the delayTo be honest I just don't like letting people down,
between the first symptom and taking the pillsbut whereas I *felt* guilty, the *facts* really
was too long, and I knew that the full symptomsdidn't back that up.
were coming my way, with a 3 day stretch untilIt's exactly this kind of taking a feeling as fact
recovery.which stops us achieving many things in life. We
This was on Friday night, with the curlingfeel that we can't do something, and turn this
tournament scheduled for Saturday and Sunday. Ifeeling into a fact.
had no option but to explain to my team matesOnce we recognise that we do this, we can step
that I wouldn't be playing, and to set off home.back and separate what we have as a feeling
I had hoped to get home before the vomitingfrom the cold hard facts. It is amazing how much
started, but only got half way, having to drive theclearer everything seems, how much more is
remaining 15 miles stopping every mile to paintpossible when you do this, so make sure that
the pavement. My artistic approach could bewhen you next declare a fact about yourself, be
described as 'scattergun', if you get my drift.certain that it *is* a fact, and not just a feeling.
There were plenty of 'splats', a couple of